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NEURODIVERGENT GIRLS HAVE SOME NERVE!
And parents need a lot of nerve to raise them.
I help exhausted parents raising neurodivergent girls with ADHD and Autism learn how to disarm shame to access the strengths in her brain so she can thrive.
Join the others raising their neurodivergent daughters to LOVE THAT BRAIN™ so the whole family can flourish.
The Nerve of the Girl is an educational resource, consultancy and community helping parents raise neurodivergent girls to flourish by reframing the way we think about brains, behavior, and social expectations for girls.
YOU’VE GOT NERVE!
YOU’RE DARING TO RAISE YOUR NEURO-DIVERGENT DAUGHTER TO HER FULLEST POTENTIAL IN A WORLD THAT KEEPS GIVING YOU THE STINK EYE!
Welcome! I am so glad you found us.
I am Tiffany Israel and this is The Nerve of the Girl, your new safe space to find clarity, strategy, courage and connection as you parent girls differently in a world that does not yet understand them or your parenting challenges.
We all know the stink eyed comment, “The nerve of the girl!” here! And, we are reframing it from shame to truth. Join us to learn how to give neuro-divergent girls the nerve to Love That Brain so they can flourish.
IF THIS SOUNDS FAMILIAR, LOVE THAT BRAIN PARENTING™ COULD HELP
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You’re desperately walking on eggshells in your turbulent family dynamic, but don’t know how to make lasting change happen.
You dread attending social events because others harshly judge your daughter and your parenting and you’re becoming isolated.
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You feel helpless watching your daughter navigate the brutal girl world of playgrounds, lunchrooms, crushes, and body development, but can’t find support addressing these issues in a neuro-girl informed way.
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You want a closer connection of trust with your daughter, but you can’t figure out how to get there.
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You are so tired battling chaos that you have little brain space left for your other kiddos, your partner or yourself.
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YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
“69 percent of parents whose children present with ADHD report having clinically significant stress levels.”
Studies Show:
(Yagnik & Desai, 2024)“Parents of girls with ASD report higher levels of stress during the process of diagnosis and after the diagnosis as well.”
(Navot, et all, 2017)A THRIVING NEURODIVERGENT GIRL DOESN’T HAPPEN BY ACCIDENT.
SHE NEEDS STRATEGIC PARENTING THAT STARTS WITH HER BRAIN FIRST.
TRADITIONAL PARENTING MODELS RARELY WORK.
Neurodivergent girls wither under impossible expectations of parenting models that were never designed for their brains.
NEURODIVERGENT MODELS NEGLECT GIRLS.
Based on boys’ behavior and development, these models are better, but still miss critical issues about girls’ physical, social, psychological, and emotional development, and especially shame management.
MANAGING CHAOS IS EXHAUSTING & ISOLATING.
Puzzling together a parenting plan in the middle of the chaos, no generational wisdom that works, all while enduring the shaming stink eye is not sustainable. Nor will it empower your girl to thrive.
OH, MY FRIEND, HOW I UNDERSTAND! BUT, THERE IS HELP.
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Let’s get you back to:
feeling like the competent parent you are,
strategically parenting to support your girl to thrive,
growing trust and connection by parenting the way she needs,
being more available to yourself and the others you love, so the whole family can flourish,
Your parenting assignment will always be harder than most, but it does not have to be this hard. For her or for you. And, you don’t have to go it alone. I can help.
ASK FOR HELP
ASK FOR HELP
FIGHT THE SHAME, NOT HER BRAIN.™
YOUR DAUGHTER IS LIKELY HIDING SOMETHING FROM YOU
Beneath the surface of your daughter’s confusing behavior is a mass of shame. It is the hardened accumulation of stink eyes and the 10x more criticism she receives EVERY. SINGLE. DAY! Even more, she’s wired to be especially shame sensitive, transforming shame into toxic, debilitating shame. And she is likely trying to hide this from you because she feels ashamed about feeling shame. But she needs your help.
FIGHT THE SHAME TO ACCESS HER BRAIN™
A neurodivergent girl needs a different parenting approach designed just for her. She needs us to fight the shame so she can access her brain! Shame holds the brain hostage making her strengths inaccessible to her. Real change comes when she is empowered to spot and vaporize sneaky shame as it comes at her, clearing the way for her to learn to LOVE THAT BRAIN so she can thrive.
It seems like busting shame should be simple, but it isn’t. Because shame is tricky. Most of us have never been taught HOW to disarm shame. And, most of us get uncomfortable even thinking about the idea of shame. Even more, neurotypical shame busting strategies usually malfunction for our neuro-girls. And so, in our confusion, we often unintentionally harm our daughters when we are trying to help.
COMMON, WELL-MEANING PARENTING STRATEGIES THAT ACCIDENTALLY LEAD TO MORE SHAME, NOT LESS
Telling her she has superpowers
Trying to fix her brain to fit in
Telling her not to feel ashamed
Telling her it is an isolated event
Telling her to have more faith
Telling her to hide that part of herself
Telling her she is making it a big deal
But, there is an effective way to bust shame so her brain can function at its optimal level and she can thrive. And, I can show you how, in step-by-step, actionable, effective ways.
A NEURO-GIRL EMPOWERED TO BUST SHAME LEARNS TO LOVE HER BRAIN & THRIVE
She begins melting that hardened mass that was years in the making. She begins softening toward you because she trusts that you get it now. You are on her side and will help her fight the shame and not her brain. And, once she trusts you on this, everything else starts changing. Because something stuck has been released.
The power struggles become more manageable, the outbursts less intense and more understandable, her connection to you palpable. And your sense of being a capable parent is restored. Because you get it. Because you’ve got the nerve to protect her in the face of constant stink eyes. You just need the tools. And, I can help you with that.
Are you ready to empower your daughter to BUST THAT SHAME™ and LOVE THAT BRAIN™?
LOVE FOR TIFFANY’S APPROACH:
“During this very difficult time, Tiffany Israel gave me CRUCIAL ADVICE and SUPPORT. She deserves a good share of the credit for the RAPIDITY OF THE PROGRESS my daughter has made. Tiffany’s greatest insight comes out of LOVE, not just for her own daughter, but for the rest of humanity. TIFFANY TELLS THE CRUCIAL TRUTH; morality and neurodiversity are distinct entities. I am delighted that Tiffany’s hard-earned wisdom will now be accessible to the many parents and girls who can thereby benefit.”
Erin Rowe MD
Assistant Professor, Yale School of Medicine
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